Who is Your Button Pusher ?

Who is your button pusher?

The scenario:    Someone does or says something accidentally or deliberately to hurt you!

You get annoyed, hurt, angry,  tearful and just so unhappy.  They have said what they said, and an hour later you are still mad.

A day later you are still mad.   They have moved on and got on with their life.  But, I am still annoyed, how dare they ! HOW DARE they !!!!  Honestly, how DARE THEY!!!

So, two days later we are still mad.

A week later still mad.   Two weeks later still mad.

A month later still mad.   Two months later still mad.   The one who has hurt has since moved on with their life and even had a holiday and got a new job and life is rosy for them.

4 months later you are still mad.

A year later  you are still mad.     The other person still doesn’t realise what they did !?  Funny that.  They have moved on with their life and I am still stuck.

That five minute hurtful conversation has become a year of pain!  They have moved on.  And I am stuck. 

They pushed my button ONCE only. 

But

I PUSHED MY BUTTON

hours, days, weeks, months  and years later !!??.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

We have to learn to accept, let go, move on and believe there is benefit in everything.  Learn to take the emotional charge out of the pain.  That pain happened in the past, is has gone, let me learn what it is I have to learn and let me move on.  Learn to let go, for your happiness, for your peace of mind, for your health – physical and mental health.

acceptance

Think about it??  

How crazy is that. Sure it was wrong it was rude,it was hurtful.  But, who is stuck and causing themselves mental and physical damage a YEAR ON!

We have to let it go,  We have to forgive and move on.   Yes, it is hard.  But, it is not impossible – for the word itself say I’M POSSIBLE  (quote from unknown author) .

wp-1474740497231.png

We have the capacity to be much greater, kinder, compassionate, stronger than we are.   We are immortal souls with a Hugh capacity to love, to be peaceful, to be silent, to be positively strong.    Stick and Stone – they are just word.  Or I get hurt physically,  but I am a soul, a point of light energy, I am immortal, I walk in God light – how can I be hurt I am not this body.

Life is one big habit

and being hurt can be an habit, especially when I practice it for a whole year!   I know I make light of it, but honestly why make it heavy, let it go move one.

Realise after the event it is YOU that is the button pusher!  They have move one.

Fact is that  people will hurt us deliberately or accidentally.  I choose to get hurt or not.  Let Karma do it’s job, become carefree and live your life – don’t get paralyzed.

We have more capacity then we realise.  Look at Nelson Mandela and Viktor Frankl.  Be inspired, and believe in yourself,  you can get over it and move one.  You are stronger and wiser, and capable of managing should it happen again – but it wont.  Because I will use affirmations and the law of attraction and I will do positive karma – my life will be free of obstacles as I have the divine and I have inner resilience!

Thanks for stopping by.  Please like, share or comment- I would love to hear your thoughts on this post, please comment below.   Subscribe/Follow this blog,  I post on Saturdays, Sundays, Tuesdays and Thursday.   Saturday is the day I post a selection of quotes as we all love  a good quote or two.

Related Post

AboutBooks – MeditationsSongs

© 2016 thoughtsnlifeblog       www.thoughtsnlifeblog.com

Disclaimer & Disclosure Policy

 Image acknowledgement:

Some pictures are taken from http://www.freeimages.com as free stock photos.  Text on images have been placed there myself using MSPaint.    Or I have created on MSPowerpoint,  Or the quotes have been taken from the web and I have used Insta Text App, or Textgram app to produce the rest.

You can find me on TWITTER,   Pinterest,  Instagram.

 

Save

42 thoughts on “Who is Your Button Pusher ?

  1. I try not to let my buttons get pushed too often, and fortunately they do not. However this is a wonderful post, with lots of great information Bella!! And you are so right we accomplish nothing by holding on to hurtful remarks from others. It matters only what we think of ourselves. Bella I don’t know if you’d be interested in playing or not but I have tagged you in a Song a Day Challenge. If you’re not interested, no worries, but if you think you might have fun with it here’s the link.
    https://onceuponahotflash.com/2017/04/10/song-a-day-challenge-day-4/

    Liked by 1 person

      1. Oh no worries at all…you don’t even have to do it, but someday if you’re looking for something to post about, here you go!! Wishing you a wonderful Easter too. 🙂

        Liked by 1 person

  2. Of course you’re right – if we stay angry we push the button. For me it is very easy to let go, my attitude changes into a positive one again sometimes so easily that some people think that I lie or play with them. But I just can forget everything very quickly. The only problem is what if I let go but this person does it again, and again… then I’m moving away more and more

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Yeah that’s tough because you have let go and they keep on. I feel that way sometimes. And i ask myself have i truely freed myself or is tgere something still in me… because the law of attraction attracts what ever we give attention too. So thats why i say to myself have a truely let go… they say lessons are repeated until learnt.

      It is tough and deep… i feel letting go and good wishes to that person helps.. but i know reck it by thinking or being concerned what will they do next..

      I hope i make sense and there is something useful in this response?

      Liked by 1 person

      1. yes, I agree, I didn’t want to go so far in my previous response but I believe that if someone keeps pushing our buttons that means that there is still sth in us which we didn’t heal. So to run away from this person is not an option because then somebody else will do it anyhow, unless we heal and the other does not and then it is possible that our pusher will just go away spontaneously.
        I like the quote of Katie Byron about it: “Our parents, our children, our spouses, and our friends will continue to press every button we have, until we realize what it is that we don’t want to know about ourselves, yet. They will point us to our freedom every time.”

        Liked by 1 person

  3. I have removed most of my buttons and keep the others secret so that people don’t feel tempted to push them on purpose. Misdirection also works. Most people work with the assumption that their buttons are your buttons so it’s pretty amusing to watch imaginary button pushing.

    Liked by 1 person

      1. Great question. It is an interesting argument considering the idea that we tend to project our insecurities on others. Button pushing can be a defensive response. I think being transparent about our insecurities can fix that problem.

        Liked by 1 person

        1. I went to a talk and he basically said we are our own button pushers and i wasnt expecting that response to the the topic i selected. But i am convinced when i look at my self ..i let myself get wound up and stay wound up.. my whole blog is about how thoughts make us happy or sad. Anyways that my thought on that.

          Lovely to have visit my little blog , snd comment

          Liked by 1 person

  4. Someone very close to me is a button pusher, but you are right — we can choose to be annoyed/upset or not. Victor Frankl was such an amazing person. He went through the most horrific experiences — being in a Nazi concentration camp — and yet he survived and still found beauty in life. I marvel at that, because it seems way beyond me! He also wrote the wonderful book, “The Song of Bernadette” that was made into a movie in the 1950’s.

    Liked by 2 people

  5. Great one! The person who pushes my buttons doesn’t stop though. Well she does. Until she realizes that I have moved on and then she does it again. In some kind of way. I worked on the issue. I manage to let go instantly if she does but it makes it hard to let truly go because she will come back and do it again. Some people are hard to keep out of your life but I’m working on it. One step at a time.

    Liked by 3 people

  6. and being hurt can be an habit, especially when I practice it for a whole year …this is what I think is a powerful revelation …as much as i agree with your entire post …it is often a habit pattern that we get stuck in …new day, new moment, new breath calls for a new way of being, let go, move on, live life.

    Liked by 2 people

    1. We have people we believe our button pushers. I went to a talk on this topic and he so beautifully put it, that actually we are our own button pushers. What it is, is that we have sensitive and elements of our nature -that another person trigger something , which creates a negative feel towards another. Granted some people just are hard . However, it is up to me to get annoyed or not. It up to me to hole resentment or not . In the long run negativity will only damage your health – physically and mentally. It also impacts your life and your growth. Sure it is hard to accept the other, may be we will never be able to , but if we can reach a non emotional feeling to a person, it means I am free-er , my mind is clearer of negativity and my resilience to getting annoyed by them is greater, that I don’t have to avoid them, or when I see them I don’t lose my inner peace. I know what it is like to be disliked and frankly I don’t know what I have done to be disliked – therefore I don’t take their hate personally ..

      All I know is that negativity will not lead me to have an unhappy life, and one can never truly be happen inside. So if one can find away to let go and accept the at least there is some peace some positivity some wholeness. For example i wrote a post – A haters going to hate you regardless – because I finally accepted the fact, but it doesn’t mean I am a bad person at all.

      Thanks for popping by sorry for the ramble

      Liked by 2 people

  7. It’s like holding up a glass of water… hold the water for minute is easy, but soon enough it starts getting heavy. The water and the glass doesn’t care, it’s just water and a glass. It weighs us down and eventually all we can think about is how heavy the glass feels. Eventually we have to just put the glass down and move on. Great words of advice you have written!

    Liked by 2 people

    1. Brigid, many thank for appreciation and feedback means a lot. Well down time, the plan was to read and comment on other bloggers and plan a head post. Still finding my feet or art of juggling.. glad the pics are working .. they take a bit of planning.. but your feedback gives me more enthusiasm.. really appreciate it. Speak soon regards bella

      Liked by 1 person

  8. Life’s full of people who’ll make snide remarks, hurt us and bring us down but in the end it’s us to us to believe in ourself and reclaim our power. And to move on from hurts. You’re right, it achieves nothing to hold on. We have to learn to let go. Great post Bella.

    Liked by 1 person

Leave a Reply

Please log in using one of these methods to post your comment:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s