Who is Your Button Pusher ?

Who is your button pusher?

The scenario:    Someone does or says something accidentally or deliberately to hurt you!

You get annoyed, hurt, angry,  tearful and just so unhappy.  They have said what they said, and an hour later you are still mad.

A day later you are still mad.   They have moved on and got on with their life.  But, I am still annoyed, how dare they ! HOW DARE they !!!!  Honestly, how DARE THEY!!!

So, two days later we are still mad.

A week later still mad.   Two weeks later still mad.

A month later still mad.   Two months later still mad.   The one who has hurt has since moved on with their life and even had a holiday and got a new job and life is rosy for them.

4 months later you are still mad.

A year later  you are still mad.     The other person still doesn’t realise what they did !?  Funny that.  They have moved on with their life and I am still stuck.

That five minute hurtful conversation has become a year of pain!  They have moved on.  And I am stuck. 

They pushed my button ONCE only. 



hours, days, weeks, months  and years later !!??.


We have to learn to accept, let go, move on and believe there is benefit in everything.  Learn to take the emotional charge out of the pain.  That pain happened in the past, is has gone, let me learn what it is I have to learn and let me move on.  Learn to let go, for your happiness, for your peace of mind, for your health – physical and mental health.


Think about it??  

How crazy is that. Sure it was wrong it was rude,it was hurtful.  But, who is stuck and causing themselves mental and physical damage a YEAR ON!

We have to let it go,  We have to forgive and move on.   Yes, it is hard.  But, it is not impossible – for the word itself say I’M POSSIBLE  (quote from unknown author) .


We have the capacity to be much greater, kinder, compassionate, stronger than we are.   We are immortal souls with a Hugh capacity to love, to be peaceful, to be silent, to be positively strong.    Stick and Stone – they are just word.  Or I get hurt physically,  but I am a soul, a point of light energy, I am immortal, I walk in God light – how can I be hurt I am not this body.

Life is one big habit

and being hurt can be an habit, especially when I practice it for a whole year!   I know I make light of it, but honestly why make it heavy, let it go move one.

Realise after the event it is YOU that is the button pusher!  They have move one.

Fact is that  people will hurt us deliberately or accidentally.  I choose to get hurt or not.  Let Karma do it’s job, become carefree and live your life – don’t get paralyzed.

We have more capacity then we realise.  Look at Nelson Mandela and Viktor Frankl.  Be inspired, and believe in yourself,  you can get over it and move one.  You are stronger and wiser, and capable of managing should it happen again – but it wont.  Because I will use affirmations and the law of attraction and I will do positive karma – my life will be free of obstacles as I have the divine and I have inner resilience!

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44 replies

  1. I have removed most of my buttons and keep the others secret so that people don’t feel tempted to push them on purpose. Misdirection also works. Most people work with the assumption that their buttons are your buttons so it’s pretty amusing to watch imaginary button pushing.

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  2. Of course you’re right – if we stay angry we push the button. For me it is very easy to let go, my attitude changes into a positive one again sometimes so easily that some people think that I lie or play with them. But I just can forget everything very quickly. The only problem is what if I let go but this person does it again, and again… then I’m moving away more and more

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    • Yeah that’s tough because you have let go and they keep on. I feel that way sometimes. And i ask myself have i truely freed myself or is tgere something still in me… because the law of attraction attracts what ever we give attention too. So thats why i say to myself have a truely let go… they say lessons are repeated until learnt.

      It is tough and deep… i feel letting go and good wishes to that person helps.. but i know reck it by thinking or being concerned what will they do next..

      I hope i make sense and there is something useful in this response?

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      • yes, I agree, I didn’t want to go so far in my previous response but I believe that if someone keeps pushing our buttons that means that there is still sth in us which we didn’t heal. So to run away from this person is not an option because then somebody else will do it anyhow, unless we heal and the other does not and then it is possible that our pusher will just go away spontaneously.
        I like the quote of Katie Byron about it: “Our parents, our children, our spouses, and our friends will continue to press every button we have, until we realize what it is that we don’t want to know about ourselves, yet. They will point us to our freedom every time.”

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  3. I try not to let my buttons get pushed too often, and fortunately they do not. However this is a wonderful post, with lots of great information Bella!! And you are so right we accomplish nothing by holding on to hurtful remarks from others. It matters only what we think of ourselves. Bella I don’t know if you’d be interested in playing or not but I have tagged you in a Song a Day Challenge. If you’re not interested, no worries, but if you think you might have fun with it here’s the link.

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