Overwhelmed, Stressed, Fed Up

Overwhelmed, Stressed, Fed Up

We all get days, weeks and even months when it is all too much.  We feel weighted down, tired and fed up.   However, we have to move forward.    We need to develop strategies that help us move forward.   Remember,  a problem never stays forever, it is just a passing cloud.  So, how can I make myself light when it all feels like too much?


How do I make myself light?

Personally, I am not light and easy 100% of the time.   But, over the years I have developed habits, routines, methods to get me out of the rut.

I believe life is one big habit, I believe routines are important, I believe daily meditation is important, slowing down and contemplating life is invaluable.  I practice journaling/morning pages, and I tell you that I fix myself so quickly just by old school pen and paper.


I was reading a book, and in the book the author says we have forgotten how to talk to ourselves.   She referred to pen and paper as our way of talking to ourself.

When we make goals, or we are in a rut, if we take pen to paper to let the thoughts out, we learn what makes us happy, what makes us sad, what we do to self-sabotage our happiness, we talk to ourselves, and we get to know ourselves.


Because we don’t talk to ourselves this way – it all become too much.  I know that when I don’t write and just keep on being busy I get totally messed up. 

So below are a few step I take  to personally get myself out of the rut, the unhappiness and get myself back on track.  I hope you find these useful.


  • Breath
  • Take a piece of paper and write down a bunch of affirmation to calm me down, and strengthen my confidence
  • Take a piece of paper and write down a bunch of things to be grateful for.
  • Take a walk
  • Take a piece of paper and write down all the burdens and cut it up and throw it away and move on.
  • List out all that I have achieved. This helps me to recognise I can do this.
  • Write out 100 times I can do this.
  • When I just want to moan, I take a piece of paper and go AHHHHHHHH! Chuck it away afterwards.  I feel so much better.
  • Eat Well
  • Go to sleep on time
  • Exercise
  • Meditate
  • Spend time with ones you love.
  • family-1409629-640x480
  • Change your perspective on the problem.  See it as an opportunity, something that is getting you out of your comfort zone.   See the good in it.
  • Try to reduce the feeling of being overwhelmed by taking small steps.
  • Let it go, whatever you are stressed about will pass,  all clouds pass they don’t stay with us for ever.
  • Trust yourself and your capacity
  • Walk in God’s hands.
  • Don’t make the stressful situation your entire life. Deal with it but don’t let it paralyze you. Very important to have variety in your life to keep you engaged and motivated.
  • Have routines in your life, it will reduce your  overall stress
  • Be organised
  • Manage your time.
  • If you need to discuss it with someone, then select the person who will get you into gear and not the person who will allow you to get deeper in the quicksand of your stress.
  • Play your favourite board game, or cards with your family – nothing that involves a computer or TV.  Return to old school games – you will feel so much better and alive.
  • ……

A quick fix for a bad moment in the day

You are in the middle of a mental turmoil at work or where ever and you need to vent.  This is my tried and tested method, should you wish to try ?  Take a scrappy piece of paper and write: –
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH,  AHHHHHHHHHHH, AHHHHHHHHH,   I am okay,  I let it go, It will pass, I am learning ,  I am improving,  It is okay, I am thick skinned,  It is not personal,  I am great, I am Calm,  I am super fine, and  any other affirmation you want to add.    I am grateful for the learning opportunities and  I am becoming a better person.   Repeat this 3 times including the Ahhhh.   Rip that piece of paper up and recycle it.    See how you feel after that!  I am serious, I have done it in my work places and still do.   I even do it at home and with my voluntary work.    Try this as crazzy as it sounds, you will feel better and you will laugh at yourself because it is so crazy.


Thanks for stopping by.  Please Like, Comment, Share, or subscribe/follow this blog.  So what do you do to get yourself out of a rut.

Related Post

About – MeditationsSongs

copyright © 2016 http://www.thoughtsnlifeblog.com      All Right Reserved     http://www.thoughtsNlifeblog.com

Contact email.   thoughtsnlifeblog@gmail.com

Disclaimer & Disclosure Policy

Image acknowledgments:  WWW.FREEIMAGES.COM





Published by thoughtsnlifeblog

I believe that the thoughts we create impact our life greatly. If we are able to change our thoughts, redirect them, catch our negative thinking.We can change our life. Read my 'About' page to find out more about thoughtsnlifeblog.com

53 thoughts on “Overwhelmed, Stressed, Fed Up

  1. I know what makes me feel lighter again. Like walks, along the beach or in a park. Because I breathe. Or exercising. I switch off my brain while doing them. Or just heading out with the kids and listening to their laughter 🙂


    1. Aww so sweet. When i was new to blogging i accepted the awards. But then trying to select bloggers who to nominate was too hard. I think all bloggers do sych a great job that its hard to choose. So now my policy us not to accept because it is too hard to choose from all the great bloggers out there. However , thank you for nominating me i am truely humbled and honoured. Thank you. Regards bella

      Liked by 1 person

      1. Aw that’s alright. Apart from this award (where I wanted to name 3 people to get others to visit their blogs) I never nominate people. In fact if you like doing the award nominate your followers in general lol A lot of bloggers do that. But it’s fine if you don’t want to accept either. I see it ore as a way of connecting with my followers as they learn something about me, but I don’t like to nominate as a rule and leave it usually open to all. However I wanted to highlight some extra special people who have helped me though some tough times. 🙂

        Liked by 1 person

      2. lol that’s why I said don’t just do the award if you like lol. Well no matter 🙂 🙂 Just thought you might like it but believe me I received that award months ago and just had nothing else to post so got bored and did it lol, plus if you see it I’ve shamlessly used it as a plug for my respect the reviewer posts. lol 🙂 Just enjoy your blogging, no worries about the awards, take care 🙂

        Liked by 1 person

  2. Wonderful and thank you. Definitely need to try these, I’m always feeling overwhelmed when I promise too much of my time to others. Need to learn to take care of myself as well as others. Hope you got my email, and hope you’ll still want to reply, I hope nothing inside the email upset you :/

    Liked by 1 person

    1. C, i will respond, you are very sweet and kind, why would i be offended.
      We all put too much pressure on ourself this where routines and disciplines help.. stepping back and reassessing, and keep learning and reassessing and it will get better.. but guess what you gotta reassess your whole life and i kinda like that because you see how far you have come.. and we have all come far in our personal journeys. Be unique dont care what people think of you.. God loves us regardless we just need to learn to love and appreciate our life.

      I will respond to email at some point. I did quickly read it and nothing offends.. but i need respond at my computer not from the phone..

      Tc and always think you have come so far

      Liked by 1 person

    1. Aww thanks for reading abd commenting… yes the ahhhhh strategy is a bit out there and crazy. But oh does it work because it so stupid. I know we are all different so it might not work for ..but one if the other points might. Today at work was full on for all of us and kept randomly laughing and saying it is worth it in a jokey way. It too the pressure of me and my colleagues . … have a lovely weekend

      Liked by 1 person

  3. Great post Bella! I wish I’d thought to write down ahhhhhhhhhhahahhhhhahhhhhh a few times at work to relieve some pressures.. I may write about them some day but not for today.. Yep aghhhhhhh would have helped! x

    Liked by 1 person

  4. Miriam, thank for reading ..it is a bit random because my methods to get myself out of a rut are random..but they work.. well they work for me…so they might work for others…all the best with whatever you are going to try or are your trying the whole randomness lol.

    Good evening
    Regards bella


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: