Changing Our Automatic Thoughts
Changing our automatic thoughts allows us to change our life.
As we break the habit of negative thinking, we create a new habit of thinking positively. By stopping waste thoughts and realigning unhelpful thoughts, we increase our ability to think positively and be positive. As we gain small successes in managing our thoughts, we increase our ability to not get hurt/disturbed/distracted in the first place. Therefore, our recovery time from a difficult situation is reduced. This leads to a more peaceful me.
Breaking Those Automatic Thinking habits
Thinking negatively is an automatic pilot that is stuck on automatic and just won’t stop being stuck. We have to deliberately override it and become aware of how often we think wasteful, useless and negative thoughts.
Catch Those Negative Thinking Habits
The simplest way of stopping negative thoughts is to catch yourself doing/thinking them. Keep a notebook with you and each time you have a negative thought or reaction write it down. This exercise allows you become more aware of how often you think negatively. Then, on a quiet day take a few minutes and look at your notebook, and see how you can change that negative thought, feeling, reaction into something positive.
Changing Negative into Positive. Creating New Habits
For example: The negative automatic thought/feeling is : “ he is always like this, I don’t like him”
The alternative, new thought is: you could say “ I accept him as this. I know I can’t change another, I can only change me. Therefore, I accept him as he is and I choose to be calm around him all the time, no matter what. I listen without judgement, and I hear what he has to say. I hear his words and I choose to be wise and remain calm. I know it will be fine. I am calm and peaceful, it doesn’t matter who is wrong or right, my internal peace matters”.
Conclusion
The above exercise truly works. If you couple this with Meditation, Journaling, Gratitude , affirmations and trying to forgive, you will be incredibly successful and peace will reign once again.
Success is only possible if I try to better myself and when I am prepared to see my own faults. I can only change myself I cannot change another.
A life of hardship will make us wise and mature if we want it to! As we change it is a wonderful feeling.
When diamonds are mined, they initially come out with rough edges and it is only when they are polished do they then shine. Becoming a shining diamond with the lessons of life, they only make us better.
It is possible to change our thinking and reduce the speed of our thoughts.
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So very true Bella. We have to be mindful and catch those negative thoughts before they take hold. And it’s a daily challenge, for me anyway. Thank you for this timely reminder. Warmest wishes and love to you xo
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Welcome Miriam. We all need to reminded daily because the habit of negativity is stronger..but one day it wont be … yeah to that day.
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Oh yay, I look forward to that day too Bella. 🙂
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Powerful piece that teaches peace! Excellent exercise! I’m no expert but I have found it to be a successful way to stop my stinking thinking! I love this post! Superb quotes! Thank you for sharing your experience! Kind Regards – K
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K, so glad you found it helpful.. i get your comment on my stinking thinking..no one is a expert all the time. We just gotta make it a daily habit to swap the thinking around. We can do it -cant we! 😉affirmations are great
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Awesome post! I also find it helpful to limit time around people who radiate negative thoughts. I know it can be hard sometimes if they are family or even co-workers but less time spent hearing negatives from other people definitely helps me re-focus. I have found depending on the situation offering a positive thought or spin when talking to someone being negative can also help.
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Yes these are good tips. And as you say it is not always possible to remove ourself from the situation, and thats why it so important to be able change ourself to face. Because we cant always escape.
Many thanks for reading and commenting. And sharing your wonderful thoughts.
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That was the post I needed to read tonight. Tough times at work have left me feeling unvalued, but I need to replace that negative thought with a more positive one, we are all going through tough times together, I accept them for what they are, and know that I am valued as a person by my colleagues.
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Aww hugs to you. I am glad the post reached you at the right time. I put links to my meditation page..that might also help. Hugs to ..
Thanks for reading and commenting. No storm stays forever. It is making you shine like a diamond
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A great post with simple rich wisdom!
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Aww thank you 😊
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A lovely post with some great quotes woven in.
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Hi Robbie, Thanks always for reading and commenting. Regards bella
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Great post!
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Thank you glad you liked it.
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