There are so many things that we do in our own life that get in our own way. We actually know most of the things we do, the bad habits we have, the addictive behaviours and much more. But, sometimes we don’t have the willpower to get ourselves into gear so that we can help ourselves. This post is written to help us kick ourselves out of our own way and be our best selves.

WHAT WE negatively do, on REPEAT makes us MAD and DEPRESSED.

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11 things we do to ourselves to drive us mad.

Thinking of those who have hurt us, and what they said time and time again. Even though they hurt us three years ago, the words still echo in our mind, or we bring them up again and again, or we are triggered each time we see them.   They said it and they moved on, but we are stuck!

I will do it tomorrow!! We let procrastination and laziness be a way of life. We let the paperwork pile up, etc.  This creates a small subtle burden of guilt and irritation within us. This is followed by stress, and we start to get angry/frustrated with everyone in sight. 

Emotional eating. We overeat and feel uncomfortable. We risk our health. We feel temporary happiness, and then we become sad, so we eat some more. We know it is bad for us, but still, we do it.

Addictive Behaviours: Watching rubbish on TV or YouTube or scrolling on Instagram! Wasting our time!  Then feeling, I have achieved nothing today, this week, this month etc.

Getting overwhelmed and falling into inaction. Getting overwhelmed paralyzes us. We overthink, potentially overcomplicate things. If we just took a baby step forward it may not seem so hard.

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Don’t going to bed on time or with the right frame of mind. When we sleep without a proper night-time routine, our brain is wired and not ready to let us sleep. This means we are always tired.

Related Read: End Your Day Positively

Low self-esteem. Okay, if you feel you lack confidence, have low self-esteem, don’t let it stop you from enjoying life. Learn to take baby steps to lean into what you fear or worry about, and slowly you will find your way. Take professional help. Or get a self-help book there are many that can help you. We are stronger than we give ourselves credit for.

Not watching your thoughts. Failing to see the positive in all situations. We have a tendency to see the negative.

Positive activities that help maintain my happiness. For Example Journaling, meditation, being grateful, practising affirmations.

Not keeping our spaces clean and tidy. Slowly the house becomes a mess, the mind becomes a mess, the garden, the car, your entire life. 

We make mistakes, and our ego stops us from doing the right thing. Ego, arrogance on your part makes things worse.

Mindset shifts required to help us be our Best Self.

You can NOT change anyone but yourself.

You can choose to be lazy and do nothing, or get your backside into gear.

The world doesn’t owe you anything, nor does your family. But, you owe you.  You are the one in charge of your life no one else.  You are the ruler of your thoughts and actions.  You choose to do or not do.

Tomorrow never comes. Do what you need to do today or forget it.

Not everyone will like you and some people will be mean – so what! You are not defined by them, are you? Be your own coach, your cheerleading squad.  Never harden your heart so much with the behaviour of others, for you lose that beauty that is you.   Let it go – I know it is hard.   But losing yourself is worse!

You own your life. Be the masters of your life and not the slave.  Drive yourself into tenth gear and kick ass!  We can do so much if we put out minds to it.

We are all unique. Stop comparing and trying to be like others. Please just be yourself and shine as bright as you and no one else.   Be you, be nice, be kind, be humble, be courageous, but be you.

Forgive, let go and move on. This will take a lot of time to heal the pain.   If you don’t then ill health will follow of some sort.  Repeat this daily using pen and paper and throw away the scribbles.

Humility is cold water that puts out a burning fire.  Meaning, if someone is having a go at you and they are close to you, then just listen and stay quiet.  Inside you are saying you are a powerful peaceful soul and share peace with them.

Meditation every day will heal you and you won’t even know it, until one day when a test comes and you will see your reaction is way better than in the past.

Affirmations, gratitude and positive reading and practise – again daily over time you will be built, so much strength that when a problem comes you’ll react better than ever.

Related Read: Affirmations & Repetition – The Key to Confidence and Happiness

You will have off days – but they won’t last unless you make them last.

Be your own friend and stop sabotaging your life with your habits, and negative ways.

Don’t walk alone – Walk in God company and be good to all. But, don’t be afraid to walk alone if your current company is not helping you move forward.

No matter how much someone hurts you, you have NO RIGHT to hurt them back even in thought – Karma does exist, just like gravity exist – just because you can’t see it, doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.

Live a characterful life, a unique life, and stop begging for love and acceptance from others. Stop trying to fit in – just be you. Stop trying to win friends by flashing your possessions.  Your character, manner and charms are worth more.   You are never alone if you keep the Divine with you.   Be Unique, and Be You.   Choose to be great every day and only depend on yourself and God – because everyone else has their own stuff to deal with.  Once you are stable in your shoes everything else doesn’t matter.

Peace, kindness, humanity, care and giving are the original nature of the Soul .. aka our spirit.

Contentment is the real happiness and that can only be found deep inside of me.  It can not be found in possessions or in the number of friends I have, or the job I have.   When I am content, life, all aspects of life fall into place.  Being content in simple things like a clean house will make a massive difference in your life. Sure we need money, but we also need to know how to live a simple life.  When we were children did we have money? – but we were content- spend some time thinking on this one and you will figure out what the spark was when you were younger and how to bring a version of that back into your life and contentment will return

But never ever be cruel or hurt a fellow human being, animal or the earth –or yourself. That is against Karma.

Finally, live a life of positive daily routines. Meditation, affirmation, gratitude, positive reading and implementation, exercise, healthy vegetarian/vegan food.  Okay, food might be a tough one – but google it and see why vegetarian/vegan helps to have a more positive life.

Conclusion:

The point of this post is to wake us all up to the craziness of our thinking, feeling and actions.   We seriously are not our best friends at times.  Our laziness is a cause for distress and it actually leads to other stresses, that impact our lives, and it weakens us when we have to deal with verbal/emotional/physical abuse from others.   To say I will do it tomorrow means today is wasted.  Today aka the PRESENT is wasted!!  This is massive, if you want to have a happy life and be able to deal with life then you gotta get into the positive routine today – NOW!!!   Just Do It and be law-abiding cause Karma takes notes on all of us -Deliberate ignorance is a form of character/emotional/spiritual

(*note the depression I refer to here is the mild depression we get generally in life).

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