The airplane safety video advises us to put our oxygen mask on first before helping others. Why? We are more helpful to others when we ourself are healthy and can breathe.
In the same way, if I fully love myself first, then I can love others without being dependent or clingy. I can provide support and compassion. I can be of help.
Conversely, if I don’t love myself, then I am clingy, dependent, lack courage, easily swayed and without an opinion. These behaviours can be devastating to ourself and in our relationships with others, friends, families, partners, spouses etc.
Learn to love yourself first not in an arrogant way. In a precious, caring and whole way. Then you will be helpful to yourself and others. Then you have truly worn your oxygen mask on first.