The airplane safety video advises us to put our oxygen mask on first before helping others. Why? We are more helpful to others when we ourself are healthy and can breathe.
In the same way, if I fully love myself first, then I can love others without being dependent or clingy. I can provide support and compassion. I can be of help.
Conversely, if I don’t love myself, then I am clingy, dependent, lack courage, easily swayed and without an opinion. These behaviours can be devastating to ourself and in our relationships with others, friends, families, partners, spouses etc.
Learn to love yourself first not in an arrogant way. In a precious, caring and whole way. Then you will be helpful to yourself and others. Then you have truly worn your oxygen mask on first.
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yes what I have been thinking about this for thei year’s Valentines’s Day
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Yes it is so important. I think valentine’s can bring about a ridiculous pressure.sometimes. We need to be kind to ourself, and not take to heart societies pressure or what the norm is. Knowing ourself is the greatest gift we give to ourself.
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I like your lotus flower painting. But you have no way of commenting on your blog. A lotus flower is a great symbol in spirituality; it means remain of good character aka beautiful in the muck aka the world, society.
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thank you. I write for myself but feel like others can learn from my writings so I’ve never opened comments as a way to keep negative out. I’m going to repaint it so stay tuned.
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It is lovely as it is.
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Truth, Bella. Lovely, post.
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Thank you Jeff
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It is amazing what a revolutionary difference self love and care makes 🙂
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Yes revolutionary is the right word. When we break the old and start love ourself we really do begin to live. Thank you for your lovely comment
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My Pleasure :))
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