Smile Even If You Want To Cry


Smile even if you want to cry.
The saying goes, when you smile, the whole world smiles with you. When you cry, you cry alone.
Unfortunately, this is so true. You could have gone through the hardest thing in your life. You are getting on with your life. You are not asking for pity. Nor are you sinking in self pity.
Life is so fast paced. That people move on fast.
Whilst your body is broken and bruised, and it reminds you, hey there, go slow my friend.
So smile even if you wanna cry. Journal it out. Meditate. And that one nearest and dearest will support you.


NB: I wrote this on 5th Oct 2021 on my Instagram. I wanted to share it on my blog then, but I got side tracked as I do. I am definitely better now, than when I wrote this. But, it is still worth sharing here on my blog, for life is life, and it tests us so. Here is the backstory if you are interested.

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36 thoughts on “Smile Even If You Want To Cry

  1. Dear, Bella, it looks like my comment didn’t make it to you. I loved this post most, as I think it is so important to feel all emotions viscerally, to process them, and to cry as often as needed; yet, this can cause confusion for people who have been socialized to see crying as problematic. Thus, we should be careful to not cause confusion for people. I will hold my tears at times, and then release them later, or, go for a walk by myself to cry as needed. Lovely post, my friend.

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    1. Thank you for rewriting your comment, not sure where your first comment went. I agree with you. I think people are so very quick in life, busy with their own issues, and can’t really step into our shoes and see if from our angle. Therefore it is important for us not to get hurt by them, remain detached, a bit thick skinned and cry later. We have to let it out, but not get stuck. We have to thicked skinned for all that we have to hear by well meaning comments that are wholly unhelpful. So there we have the title, smile even if you want to cry.

      Thankbyou always for your lovely thoughtful and deep comments, always a pleasure to speak with you dear Jeff

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      1. Ah! I’m glad this one made it to you. I wholeheartedly agree with you, Bella. You’re most welcome; is always a treat to read and connect with you, and a blessing to know you.

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  2. Bella, I needed this❣️
    I am in touch with my emotions ,about people and life events, and they are very strong but what I don’t do is cry often.

    I get verklempt but typically hold the tears in, aside from a funeral or leaving my daughter to begin university this fall 🥲🥲🥲

    Your timing is a gift because lately I’m allowing my tears to fall, for whatever reason, big or small, and the release feels good 😊

    You can’t imagine how good it felt to read your post ❣️ In fact, it felt like it was meant for me❤️❤️🤗🤗🥰🥰

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    1. ahh that is good that this post was meant for you. I think crying is helpful. but, we just can’t get stuck in that mode. Sometimes we just need to cry, feel what we feel, accept it, acknowledge it, and acknowledge that we will be alone in it. Of course God is by our side, but forget any human understanding – because logically no – one every get us in those situation, and that is totally fine too.

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  3. I try and find something to laugh at in every situation, even if it’s bad. That’s what keeps me from going over the edge. But there’s always something in the present moment we are in that we can focus on, if only for a few breaths, and smile about, even just a flower or a breeze or memory.

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  4. Pragalbha says it well, we do need to cry but in trusted company who will comfort appropriately!

    I have been known to take the system on and had a few minor wins but overall they brand one a trouble-maker and next time it may be worse … take care precious 🙂

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  5. I have found it necessary to allow all the crying that needs to come, it is very cleansing and healing bringing out all the grief there is. I made sure I used trusted support to be witnessed and comforted so I don’t stay in it too long …as you are right, sometimes just smiling becomes a way to come out of it.

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