Smile even if you want to cry.
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The saying goes, when you smile, the whole world smiles with you. When you cry, you cry alone.
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Unfortunately, this is so true. You could have gone through the hardest thing in your life. You are getting on with your life. You are not asking for pity. Nor are you sinking in self pity.
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Life is so fast paced. That people move on fast.
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Whilst your body is broken and bruised, and it reminds you, hey there, go slow my friend.
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So smile even if you wanna cry. Journal it out. Meditate. And that one nearest and dearest will support you.
NB: I wrote this on 5th Oct 2021 on my Instagram. I wanted to share it on my blog then, but I got side tracked as I do. I am definitely better now, than when I wrote this. But, it is still worth sharing here on my blog, for life is life, and it tests us so. Here is the backstory if you are interested.
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It’s not something easy to do, but we must try to smile even in difficult times
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Yes, not easy at all. But sometimes the most sensible thing to do. Can be less painful in a weird way
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Couldn’t agree more
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Thanks for this lovely message, Bella. I hope all is well with you.
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Yes all well as well can be. I hope all is well on your side too. 🤗🥰
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My answer is the same as yours. Hugs.
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Hugs.
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Dear, Bella, it looks like my comment didn’t make it to you. I loved this post most, as I think it is so important to feel all emotions viscerally, to process them, and to cry as often as needed; yet, this can cause confusion for people who have been socialized to see crying as problematic. Thus, we should be careful to not cause confusion for people. I will hold my tears at times, and then release them later, or, go for a walk by myself to cry as needed. Lovely post, my friend.
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Thank you for rewriting your comment, not sure where your first comment went. I agree with you. I think people are so very quick in life, busy with their own issues, and can’t really step into our shoes and see if from our angle. Therefore it is important for us not to get hurt by them, remain detached, a bit thick skinned and cry later. We have to let it out, but not get stuck. We have to thicked skinned for all that we have to hear by well meaning comments that are wholly unhelpful. So there we have the title, smile even if you want to cry.
Thankbyou always for your lovely thoughtful and deep comments, always a pleasure to speak with you dear Jeff
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Ah! I’m glad this one made it to you. I wholeheartedly agree with you, Bella. You’re most welcome; is always a treat to read and connect with you, and a blessing to know you.
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😊❤
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It is so great to be smiling at all times, adds cadence to our face but at times we need to cry too in order to let our all out. Very nice post, Bella. Keep on smiling always no matter what.
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Thank you Kamal. Love how you say ‘ cadence’
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Welcome always dear Bella ☺️☺️☺️☺️☺️💞☺️💞☺️
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Bella, I needed this❣️
I am in touch with my emotions ,about people and life events, and they are very strong but what I don’t do is cry often.
I get verklempt but typically hold the tears in, aside from a funeral or leaving my daughter to begin university this fall 🥲🥲🥲
Your timing is a gift because lately I’m allowing my tears to fall, for whatever reason, big or small, and the release feels good 😊
You can’t imagine how good it felt to read your post ❣️ In fact, it felt like it was meant for me❤️❤️🤗🤗🥰🥰
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ahh that is good that this post was meant for you. I think crying is helpful. but, we just can’t get stuck in that mode. Sometimes we just need to cry, feel what we feel, accept it, acknowledge it, and acknowledge that we will be alone in it. Of course God is by our side, but forget any human understanding – because logically no – one every get us in those situation, and that is totally fine too.
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Agree. Excellent tool when used as a release during times of challenge and transition ❣️😃
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I try and find something to laugh at in every situation, even if it’s bad. That’s what keeps me from going over the edge. But there’s always something in the present moment we are in that we can focus on, if only for a few breaths, and smile about, even just a flower or a breeze or memory.
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Very true, always something good
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Pragalbha says it well, we do need to cry but in trusted company who will comfort appropriately!
I have been known to take the system on and had a few minor wins but overall they brand one a trouble-maker and next time it may be worse … take care precious 🙂
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Thank you Kate. It is a fine balance, taking on the system. I am progressing a complaint, still working on it.
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good luck with that, the formal complaints system here is quite ineffective 😦 or do you mean a personal complaint?
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I guess formal complaint. Yes, we get the feeling that much won’t change. But, we must try and do the right thing, and pray something good comes out of it.
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often talking directly to the media is the only way to get action … but see what becomes of your formal complaint first
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True. I did think about that.
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do hope you get some results … are you back from the appt yet?
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😊
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I have found it necessary to allow all the crying that needs to come, it is very cleansing and healing bringing out all the grief there is. I made sure I used trusted support to be witnessed and comforted so I don’t stay in it too long …as you are right, sometimes just smiling becomes a way to come out of it.
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Agree. It so important to cry. And I do. I guess thus posts is about consoling that feeling when other people seem not to understand. Though you want to cry you can’t at least infront of them.
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Yes that is a very tender place to be. Takes so much resilience within 💛
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true
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I have found that too 🙂 It can be absolutely essential sometimes.
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Yes, an absolute essential sometimes. Thank you for reading and sharing your experiences here. 🤗
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❤
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💛💝😊
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