Personal Effectiveness. How Effective are You? Do you get in your own way? Are you always Sad? Is this affecting you at work or in your life in general?

Barriers to Your Personal Effectiveness

Our personal effectiveness can be impaired by the way we think. There are many times in our life when negative thinking stops us from progressing.

If we are able to change our thinking patterns from negative to positive, we allow ourselves to be happier. When are happier we automatically are more effective?  This then snowballs, and creates opportunities and success in our life.

Below are 10 thoughts and ideas, that if you read these daily, refer to them when you feel anxious and stressed, will help you to break the negative feelings that you have.

Additionally, if you write these out like lines from time to time, for 21 days, they help to rewire your brain, and your automatic thoughts, breaking the chain of negative emotions. They help you get out of your own way. I would actually advise that you use these more than 21 days. I would advise you to do this as long as it takes. That is when you can see that you no longer react in a negative, stressed, or anxious way.

What does it Mean To Be In Our Own Way?

Being stressed, anxious, frustrated, angry, feeling of helplessness, feeling there is no way out, or just feeling sad and down most of the time are feelings/emotions are negative emotions that are not helpful. These are the signs that we are “in our own way”.

Do these work?

Yes, they work. How do I know? I have done these myself. How long does it take – well it will take as long as it takes. But, they do work. However, you must use these daily or regularly and for a while!

I am happy to answer any questions you have, do leave a comment below.

10 Thoughts and Tips

  1. Approval is nice to have! But I am not dependent on it.
  2. Perfection is not required, only my best effort is required along with the ability to be flexible to any change in direction.
  3. Learn to see the benefit in every situation even if it seems horrible.  A challenge is an opportunity for growthDon’t get stuck in a negative situation, learn to deal with it and move on.  Being stuck only damages you, it prevents you from moving forward.
  4. Learn to accept people as they are and learn to work with them as they are.  Adapt yourself to the other’s way of working.  This will create a peaceful interaction. You may not agree with them, but we have to find a middle ground to move forward.
  5. If you blame someone, remember that when you point the finger, there are three fingers pointing back at you.  Blame creates difficulties in your effectiveness and relationships.
  6. Don’t expect everyone to be like you, everyone is unique.
  7. Only you can change yourself.   You can’t change another and nor do you have the right.   When you change your thinking you change your world. Learn not to take things personally. Get thicker skin.
  8. Fill your mind with happy thoughts every day.
  9. Write 10 things you are grateful for every day.
  10. Practice affirmations daily. Repeating affirmation daily creates an inner strength that can see you through issues.  You could try affirmations like: –  I am good enough,   I am worthwhile, I am strong. I am capable, I can do this,  I take baby steps to achieve this, I can do this, I will do this, I am doing this.

Know When to Seek Professional Help

However, it is crucial to recognise that if you don’t feel better after a few months of trying these, you should reach out for professional help. A few CBT (Cognitive Behaviour Therapy) sessions will help you immensely.

Parting thought.

We can change our life, with consistent practise of these tools and techniques. Daily repetition is key. But, it is important to recognise when to reach out for help too. Because sometimes we have just gone through too much in life we just need to speak to another person who just doesn’t know us. The work we have done by ourselves will help us a lot in those sessions.

I hope you do find these helpful, do comment below. I am happy to answer any questions you have on how to apply these.

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20 thoughts on “Personal Effectiveness. How Effective are You? Do you get in your own way? Are you always Sad? Is this affecting you at work or in your life in general?

  1. Wonderful affirmations, Bella. You are so correct about habituating to these types of positive thoughts and affirmations. I was just coaching a team member on the fact that when we write things down, they take on a whole different aspect within us, and then when we practice this daily, transformation can occur. Wonderful post, my dear friend.

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  2. Thanks a lot Bella for motivating and encouraging us how to live our lives. To be positive and take charge of your life is actually only in our hands and to write 10 points on gratitude is a booster for being positive in life. Thanks once again.

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  3. Hi Bella, these are all very good points. I particularly subscribe to point 2. I aim for 95% correct with my writing in comparison to the 100% I would like to achieve. If I didn’t set this slightly lower goal, I would never publish.

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    1. Yes, I know the feeling. Many things block us. The nice thing is that when we start unblocking one or two, we can see the others and we can then work on those. It is such a release, a freedom. Glad you enjoyed. Copy away.. thank you.

      Ps the graphics I created in canva. Hint hint

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  4. I’m still trying to make sense of this saying, though I really believe that I should get out of my own way. I’m just not certain when I’m getting in my way, and when I’m taking actions in alignment with my life goals. All I know is that I have to take each moment as they come, and always be mindful of where I’m headed. Anyway, thanks for this post, Bella!

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    1. Yes Stuart , you are right, how can we get out of our own way, when we don’t realise we are in our own way. Paradox. The biggest sign is that I am not happy, I am not flowing freely in life, I am nervous, stressed, all those feelings. I know I can be better, but feel stuck.

      I will see uf I can improve this post, by answering your question in the post, thanks for the polite hint.

      Thanks for reading and commenting.


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