Barriers to Your Personal Effectiveness

Barriers to Your Personal Effectiveness

Our personal effectiveness can be impaired by the way we think. There are many times in our life where negative thinking stops us from progressing.


If we are able to change our thinking patterns from negative to positive we allow ourselves to be more effective and happy.  In doing this we create opportunities and success in our life.

Below are 10 thoughts and ideas that may help us overcome the negative thinking traps that stop us from being effective.

  1. Approval is a nice to have but I am not dependent on it.
  2. Perfection is not required, only my best effort is required along with the ability to be flexible to any change in direction.
  3. Learn to see the benefit in every situation even if it seems horrible.  A challenge is an opportunity for growthDon’t get stuck in a negative situation, learn to deal with it and move on.  Being stuck only damages you, it prevents you from moving forward.
  4. Learn to accept people as they are and learn to work with them as they are.  Adapt yourself to the others way of working.  This will create a peaceful interaction.
  5. If you blame someone, remember that when you point the finger, there are three fingers pointing back at you.  Blame creates difficulties in your effectiveness and relationships.
  6. Don’t expect everyone to be like you, everyone is unique.
  7. Only you can change yourself.   You can’t change another and nor do you have the right.   When you change your thinking you change your world.
  8. Fill your mind with happy thoughts every day.
  9. Write 10 things you are grateful for every day.
  10. Practice affirmations daily. Repeating affirmation daily creates an inner strength.  You could try affirmation like: –  I am good enough,   I am worthwhile, I am strong. I am capable, I can do this,  I take baby steps to achieve this, I can do this, I will do this, I am doing this.

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37 thoughts on “Barriers to Your Personal Effectiveness

  1. Hi Bella, regarding point 7 this is very true – when I started investing in myself and changing my own life I was so eager to help others, but found it really frustrating because no one listened to my useful advice. Only an individual can help themselves – nobody can do it for them.

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    1. James, see not everyone is in the same place as you. They may not even be interested.

      The other thing with changing myself and not wanting to change others, you become wiser and you accept them. . But the most important thing is that you understand yoursrlf better, you gain inner strenght when you focus on making you better. And that learning curve and change makes you better able to deal with others because you are better acquainted with yourself.

      I hope that makes sense.

      Regards bella

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  2. I’m trying to live a lifestyle of affirming positively everyday despite what I may be going through. It’s very soothing and helps me believe in hope that everything will be alright. Thanks for sharing these great nuggets. 🙂

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      1. You did an amazing job coming up with these 10. It took some thought but the only think I came up with is;
        Replace the negative feeling/thought with a positive when you feels down. Practice Remember a difficult moment in your life when you over came a difficult event and remind yourself of what you’ve overcome. In the face of that challenge everything else is mere.

        It has been While, and thankfully I am doing great. I’m you are too Bella 🙂

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