Mirror – Others are said to be A Mirror for us.

Mirrors -Others are said to be A Mirror for us.


I came across this statement many years ago, at a point of turmoil in both my personal and work life.   When a dear friend said they are a mirror for me, I was internally saying to myself “what! no way”.    I knew that I was not as mature as my friend , and  I knew there was a deeper meaning that I was not getting.   I was being very literal about a mirror.

A mirror is  a direct reflection of me.   I also knew that what you don’t like about another is something  that you need to change in yourself, or that dislike becomes apart of your character.

The turmoil involved the most horrible cruelest people, who up-until that point in my life I had never met (lucky me).  I was hit both personally and professionally.  There was no escaping the pain, it felt like 24/7.  Though I meditated, read positive writing and journalled, it was hard to get past that phase.  Of course I did and we all do.

I was so perplexed by the mirror statement.  I was so literal about it, “I was like but I am nice, I am not mean!”, what do I learn from this, what do I need to change.    I was quite disturbed by this.   It took me a good while before I got it,  before I understood the beauty that others are a mirror to us.


I think the reason I did not get it, was I was in pain and in turmoil, and it did not let me understand the depth of the statement.  Also, I was not mature enough, and it was the first ever encounter in my personal and work life that I met the most cruelest meanest people ever.

So why is this statement ” Other are said to be a Mirror for us” such a beautiful and power statement.   These are my thoughts

  1. They allow me to see where I  need to change and adapt
  2. They allow me to see how far I  have come and how far I still need to go
  3. They allow me to find peace within, as I realise that I  have grown and moved on.
  4. When they are angry at me, or show their ego to me , I realise that is where they are, it is not a reflection of me.  However, if their behaviour hurts me, then it means I have work to do  on myself.
    • I have to be more tolerant,
    • or learning to let go (water off a ducks back),
    • not to take it personally,
    • in one ear and  out the other,
    • bite my tongue,
    • not to let their thoughts and word pierce my heart.
    • not lose my beauty because of their world view
    • meditate more
    • Journal more
    • sit with the Divine more and discuss it with him, and allow him to guide me.
    • Sometimes it is just a  test of my character and resilience , to withdraw inside and just let go.    For there are people in the world who’s ego are beyond belief, even when they try to be kind and compassionate their ego just gets in the way.
    • Accept, let go , move one.  Don’t take it to my heart ever.  People’s world views may be quite disturbed.
  5. To see others as mirrors I have to have the courage to face myself.  I know  I am a work in progress.
  6. Sometime I  can not see the beauty of it because, I am  in turmoil, but I will see it one day.   No cloud stays forever, and if I have the faith and want, I will figure it out.  And sometimes, I  just have to accept, let go, move on and never every take to heart.
  7. Be-careful of any distortion in your mirror, or your ability to see.

I hope you found this useful, do let me know your thoughts and any experience you have with this.  You may have something wonderful to share that other readers may benefit from, or I might learn from to.   We are all work in progress -aren’t we.

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  1. I’ve only recently come to accept this statement. I spent years not understanding what it meant. I was so adamant that the statement was wrong. But it’s a true one and once you see the behavior you don’t like and make yourself work on changing it you really feel like you’ve turned a corner in life 🙂

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  2. Right on! What we see, and dislike, in others usually is a fault of our own. i struggled with pride for most of my life (still do at times), and this mirror thing is very telling when it comes to pride and prideful behaviors. When we start to understand this principal, it will change us for the better.

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    • Or this mirror thing tells you allows you to see where you lack self esteem, where you under estimate yourself. Where it is someone else and not you. It tells you where we overestimate as well.. and sometime you just have to step away from the situation because it is beyond any real comprehension. As in move on.

      Glad you like the post and thanks for your valueable comment and view point. It is always nice to discuss such topics wider , then we all learn something we didnt previously appreciate.

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    • No problem. .. about comments going missing.

      This post is more about what disturbs us about others is a reflection of a chance in us. Or others become a yardstick to see our progress. The premise being we ate often hard on ourself, or we dont see lessons infront of us when there is a clash with another. It is not about what others think ..oh no ..no not at all. The person is just a mirror their opinion may be totally invalid… but it is about me ..internal me and how i have to grow. I dont agree others opinions of me are how i live my life.. the only one who has that right is my mum… she wont be biased.. so her opinon of me is one i will listen to.

      It has taken me ages to get to this point. If i live on others opinion of me.. well i will be a mess.

      I hope that makes it a bit clearer. I need to improve the way i write ..

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  3. Well written and soul searching. Thank you! I believe that people who are grounded, with deep rooted love, reflect what is beautiful about others around them. These people are magic and who we are naturally drawn to.

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  4. Great post, Bella, a lot of food for thought here! I love the adorable budgie parakeet picture, too. I had a budgie that looked just like that when I was a kid. His name was “Peppy” and I loved him. He was a great pet. That photo brought back memories!

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