It is Just an Insult!

“Sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me”- the saying goes.   Yet, when we are insulted, words do hurts us. We may be fine initially hearing the insult, and the words are water off a ducks back. But, when we go back to the situation in our mind, we feel, “really did they say that to me, how mean, do they not understand what they said, etc”. We repeat it again in our mind, several times in a day for days to come, and we get ourselves stuck (even mildly depressed). In the meantime, the one who has insulted us is merrily getting on with their life. So, why am I not getting on with my life?

What I have learnt is that: We know who we are and we have self-respect (we may forget to apply self-respect). We also know the other person who has insulted us (generally, we know them well).   Therefore, I have a choice to keep repeating the hurt, not applying self-respect and not enjoying life. Or to “stop” the nonsense of self-hurt and get myself into gear and start to apply my self-respect!

How to get into gear (well, this is what I did/do).

Was the comment valid?

If No: – then I tear it up, burn it, and chuck it (obviously, this is all mentally/emotionally in my head).

If there is some truth to it, and I decide that I want to implement some changes in my life, I get on and make them happen. The remaining percentage of the comment where there is no validity, I chuck them.   I forgive myself for getting upset, forgetting my self-respect, and wasting days being upset and even paralysed.   I forgive the other person, so I can release the pain and I give them good wishes. Okay, this is a bit hard, but, if I don’t forgive, let go, give good wishes and accept them as they are, I create negative Karma and I will have to pay for it later. “It-“meaning the negative thoughts that I am projecting to the one who insulted me. Finally, I need to thank that person for helping me grow wiser, for gaining clarity and the  for strengthening my power to discern  (I thank them in my mind and send that vibration out).

After all, “sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me”.   An insult is “just words”.   What are words if I don’t water them and feed them? They are meaningless!   Therefore, I need to put the situation into perspective “It is just an Insult”!  Additionally, I am an immortal soul, no stick, stone, sword, or fire can hurt me – nothing can hurt me.  So what are words, just word.  I am more stronger than words.

One will feel so much free-er after this.

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Originally shared on March 14th 2016  revised slightly for this repost.

19 thoughts on “It is Just an Insult!

  1. Words often hurt more than anything physical. It’s very hard to not give weight to the words, especially when younger and facing verbal bullying. Of course we have to let go of them and remember that in most cases it is a reflection on the one saying the words rather than yourself. We have to look after ourselves :). Great post btw did you get my last email? (sorry to ask here but I never heard back from you 😦 )

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    1. Yes i know about bullying. And painful word and the hurt… this post is after i fixed myself when reading something that related to something else and it said it is just an insult…and it put into prespective the hurt and heloed me let go and move on…

      Yes i think i got your email. Just havent responded yet.. regards bella

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    1. Brigid , thks this was a real awaking for me… i had gone thru a looot of pain and was reading stuff and working on myself then one day i read the words it is just an insult and opposition will come but they cant hurt a pure soul… and bellas ahhh moment came and i was able to let go of the awful words said to me… that you could even call a curse. And i am so free. I wrote this a fews years back and i posted in 2015 on fb.. and then in march 2016 when i started tge blog and reblogged today with some minor changes and addition. I know this one is a good one for everyone to read.. so hopefully it will spread and heal those that need to hear /read this. Regards bella

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  2. Love this post. It’s so true words only have he power we give them, once we find our pureness and self respect/love in ourself the process of forgiving gets so much easier and not taking insult to the heart becomes a way of life. Thank for sharing your ahhh moment, definitely helpful.

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